Lucy and her partner had been searching for a unicorn in London for months. Swiping through apps every day, they often ended up disappointed. Sound familiar? Don’t worry—you’re not alone. Finding the right unicorn takes patience, a bit of strategy, and a lot of honesty. Here’s what works for UK poly couples.
Get Clear on Your Intentions
Before you even start looking, sit down with your partner and chat about:
What kind of relationship you want with a unicorn—emotional, sexual, or both.
- Boundaries, rules, and how you’ll communicate.
- How to make the unicorn feel safe and respected.
Tip: Couples who are upfront about their intentions tend to get better responses. One London pair laid out their rules on CouplesandUnicorns.com and received more messages than they expected—clearly, honesty pays off!
Pick the Right Online Platforms
Some platforms are more unicorn-friendly than others:
- CouplesandUnicorns – a community built for couples seeking unicorns. Forums, events, and matching make it easier to meet the right people.
- UnicornsM – great for poly or unicorn relationships. You can find unicorns who are actually interested in poly couples.
Tip: Keep your profile real, write a personal message, and don’t copy-paste. Unicorns appreciate authenticity.
Don’t Ignore Face-to-Face Meetings
Meeting in person builds trust far faster than chatting online. Consider:
- Poly or unicorn meetups – like London Polyamory Meetup or Manchester Poly Social.
- Themed parties – social, fun, and low-pressure.
- Workshops & talks – learn about communication and boundaries, while meeting like-minded people.
Tip: Start with friendship. Let things develop naturally—rushing can put people off.
Location Matters
Different cities have different vibes and opportunities:
- London – lots of events, but also more competition.
- Manchester – smaller, friendlier community; easier to build connections.
- Bristol – moderate activity, welcoming atmosphere; smaller gatherings can be ideal.
- Glasgow & Edinburgh – fewer events, but unicorns tend to be serious about relationships.
Tip: Combine online matching with local meetups for the best results.
Patience and Respect Are Key
Finding a unicorn isn’t instant. It might take weeks, maybe even months. Respect the process:
- Build friendships first.
- Understand interests, boundaries, and comfort levels.
- Keep communication open at all times.
Next Steps
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